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5 Habits That Will Boost Your Peace and Happiness

Set your soul free by adopting these 5 habits of happy people. They will boost your peace and happiness.

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5 habits that will boost your peace and happiness

1. Spend your energy on things within your control

Let go of things you can’t control – like the weather, the bus being late, the behaviour of others, traffic and long queues, the café running out of your favourite salad roll, or coming down with a cold.

When these things occur, let them gently wash over you like water off a duck’s back. Don’t let them disturb the sense of inner peace and contentment residing deep within your heart.

Then something magical will happen. All of a sudden you will have a wealth of free energy to spend on things you can control.

Things like your dominant thoughts, your attitude, your behaviour, your values, and how you live your life – your daily lifestyle, exercise, food, career, passions, self-education, friends, fun and leisure time.

This is where your true power lies. Spend your time here, and watch how it transforms your life.

2. Adopt an optimistic worldview

We are taught to focus on problems, on fear, on protecting ourselves from all the things that could go wrong.

The world is a reflection of our dominant thoughts, so with this overly pessimistic outlook, problems and misfortunes are exactly what we find.

We’re not able to see all the beauty, blessings, kindness, love, abundance and opportunity surrounding us in every moment – because we’re not looking for it.

We’ve trapped ourselves in a self-fulfilling prophecy with our negative stories about the world.

Adopt an optimistic worldview. Wake up and anticipate an amazing day. Feel excited about the infinite possibilities for your life. Notice all the love and gifts around you just waiting to be seen.

Have you ever spent time thinking about something (a green car, a black pug, an engagement ring) and then all of a sudden you spot them everywhere?

It’s the same with your life. Spend time focusing on the positive, and then all of a sudden you will see positive outcomes, serendipity and good fortune everywhere.

3. Forgive, forgive, forgive

The Buddha once said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Learn to forgive other people when you perceive they have ‘wronged’ you. Have compassion for their situation – they are fighting their own battle, they are doing their best.

See past their ‘faults’ to the light inside of them – it is the same light that lives within you.

This is one of the hardest habits to adopt in life, but it is also one of the most freeing.

Don’t forget to extend your new forgiveness practice to yourself, either. You, as much as anyone, deserve your compassion and love.

4. Remember your higher purpose

David Campbell once said, “Discipline is remembering what you want.

Spend time doing the deep soul work to determine your values, your dream life vision, and your higher purpose – and then use these to guide you in your daily life.

It’s so easy to get trapped by inertia and fear, to procrastinate, and to make poor choices when we’re so ‘busy’ with life that we’ve forgotten what we love, what lights us up, and what we’re here for.

Maybe your higher purpose in life is to learn to love yourself, to help others, to laugh, love, write and travel.

Keep reminders of your purpose nearby, and it makes decision making easy. You just need to weigh up whether the action you’re about to take (or not take) will bring you closer to your higher purpose.

5. Be your own guide

It matters not what anybody else thinks.

Worrying about how other people view you and your life choices is like handing over the control panel of your heart to someone else and going, ‘There you go. You can decide how happy and worthwhile I feel today’.

The more you let your own intuition, inner voice, values and desires be your guide, the faster you can step into your highest good and start living in alignment with your true self.

It helps to remember that without mind-reading abilities, you can’t know what others are truly thinking anyway. So when your ego starts to fill you with doubt, remember anything it tells you is just a fictional story.

It also helps to remember that you are complete and beautiful exactly as you are. Your worth is not dependent on external factors like whether you’re seen as ‘successful’ or you’re living life in a certain way. Don’t forget this.

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11 Comments

  • Reply
    Sarah
    December 4, 2014 at 2:21 pm

    A beautiful post Elyse. A well timed read for me today too. Letting go of the drama around what you can’t control and forgiveness are the lessons I needed today, thank you. xx

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    Chloe
    December 3, 2014 at 5:38 pm

    Loved this post Elyse. These habits are simple but oh so powerful!

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    Kris
    December 3, 2014 at 2:54 pm

    Absolutely adore this, thanks for the gorgeous reminder x

  • Reply
    Ali
    December 3, 2014 at 2:44 am

    Forgiveness keeps coming up everywhere for me, especially towards myself, thank you for sharing this!

    • Reply
      Elyse Gorman
      December 3, 2014 at 8:24 am

      Glad you enjoyed Ali! Forgiveness is key x

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    Marta
    December 2, 2014 at 10:15 pm

    Nice and inspiring blog Elyse!

    • Reply
      Elyse Gorman
      December 3, 2014 at 8:24 am

      Thanks Marta! x

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    Maureen
    December 2, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    This is a great reminder for me to read today. Thank you so much for writing and sharing this. I love this part the most and the hardest for me to deal “let them gently wash over you like water off a duck’s back.” I am still learning and practicing this daily especially with dealing with comments from other people. The comments coming from those closest to you seems to be the hardest to ‘let go’ 🙂

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      Elyse Gorman
      December 3, 2014 at 8:25 am

      That’s beautiful to hear Maureen, I have to remind myself that it’s a process and it takes time to master. My philosophy teacher used to say: “First less greedy, then not greedy at all”. i.e. you don’t have to instantly be perfect at (insert whatever trait/emotion), you just have to improve on where you were a year ago xxx

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    Jasmine
    December 2, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    Love these positive outlooks! I totally agree with all of them! The world would be a very different place if everyone thought like this 🙂

    • Reply
      Elyse Gorman
      December 3, 2014 at 8:26 am

      Thanks Jasmine, it would be a beautiful place indeed! x

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